Why do i feel sorry for myself

To avoid getting stuck in a downward spiral of self-pity focus outward. On someone else. Focus on giving one or more people in your life value. Maybe someone needs help moving. Or setting up things for his party this weekend. And if she asks then offer some advice or a discussion about what can be done to improve upon the situation she is in. Be kind to a stranger by holding up the door, letting him or her into your lane while driving or helping out with directions if he seems lost in your city.

How will my life look in 1 year if I too often fall back into feeling sorry for myself for too long? And in 5 years? It popped up every morning with the help of the free Google Keep app. Another good way to use a reminder is to write your message to yourself down on a piece of paper and put it in your bedside table. And to create a small plan — or the start of one — for how you can improve or move away from the situation that have made you feel sorry for yourself.

So just sit down with a pen and a piece of paper. And brainstorm for minutes to find one or a few small steps forward. Take just one of those small or tiny steps forward to put your plan into action. This will make you, in my experience, feel empowered and better about yourself and your life.

Ask yourself: how can I prevent getting stuck in the same trap in the future? Finally, after you feel more empowered and constructive and have gotten the ball rolling with your plan take a couple of minutes and ask yourself the question above. Think about what you can do differently the next time something goes wrong or when you start feeling sorry for yourself for too long.

Henrik Edberg is the creator of the Positivity Blog and has written weekly articles here since Click here to learn more… Comments on this entry are closed. Very much needed information to feel stronger. Sometimes small steps are enough to change something for the better in our lives. Great ideas to leave a pity party! Thank you for sharing!

I love the reminder message! It would be great on a bathroom mirror!!! Do you feel sorry for yourself? Once I shifted my attention, the world expanded. I stopped feeling sorry for myself. I realized everything that happened to me within the last twenty-four hours was not just about me.

Often the stories we create in our mind are just figments of our imagination, and they do not represent a holistic picture of reality. But for some reason, because I was emotionally off that day, I interpreted her curiosity as interrogation. Sad woman silhouette via Shutterstock. Connect with her on Instagram thehovoiceover and Facebook where she provides a blend of practical advice and tips to nurture your mindset as well as tangible actions for those interested in exploring voiceover.

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Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. Click here to read more. It was a great reminder for me to: Not sweat the small stuff Pivot my thoughts to what feels good Change my perspective on the things that happen Refocus my energy on what can I do to serve others instead of being consumed with my own thoughts and feelings Once I shifted my attention, the world expanded.

Sad woman silhouette via Shutterstock See more Posts. You could write and express all your feelings down. My podcast is also my therapy to myself, and my own emotions and challenges. My rants are that. I try and turn that into good work, that the world finds value from.

I try and do it in a respectful way, i. I try my best not to do that. And usually, I share my own inner feelings, and not what people have done to me. I mean every now and again. But that usually only happens once or twice a year.

How can you let it out? Podcast, video, really good conversation with an interesting person, journal. Write, write, write, write, write, write, write, write, write, write, write, write. Get it out.

Let it out. Walk, run, move. Do good work. Go and do your mission. Go immediately help people. Because then you turn it into something. You create energy.

Like Tony Robbins says motion creates emotion. Why do I feel like that? Where does it come from. How can I change? How can I be the change I want to see in the world? What are the upsides? What are the solutions? And you have to get out of problem mode, and into solution mode, i. I wrote a concerto. Fixing mode is a very powerful mode. Be careful that when people are talking to you, they just want to talk.

Be careful not to try and fix their life. As soon as people sit down to talk to me, I want to fix, fix, fix. No, I just want to let them talk. Let yourself talk, and then fix. Could you meet your needs somewhere else? How else could you get that need met other than to people who really are going to serve you?

Could you have a therapist? Could you have a mentor, a coach? Could you create a blog on it, an article series? Do a podcast series on it, et cetera? You can turn it to good in the world. I mean, all the time, anyway. I think that is your evolving, ongoing self-mastery. Is it used to take days, or weeks, or months, or years? And now it takes hours, or minutes, or seconds. The process still happens. You still go through those emotions. You cannot disown those emotions, because all emotions serve humanity in some way.

They are reactions to the environment to help our survival. To aid our security, to help our survival. One emotional state or thought process, which will immediately remove all negative emotion.

It takes practice. But it absolutely is guaranteed to get rid of all negative emotion, and that is, gratitude. You cannot feel genuine gratitude, and any other negative emotions simultaneously. They say practice gratitude. It is a practice. We all feel grateful when things are going well. You have to practice gratitude. There always seems to be more. I work with celebrities.

I get to drive amazing cars. If you sit down for a minute, or just have catch yourself. Even to be able to listen to beautiful vinyl and amazing music. And breathe it in. Over time as you get better at that.